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Long Distance Relationship
(LDR)
By Rachel Ng

As she watched her boyfriend’s Tiara swift away to the main road from her balcony, tears started to roll down her cheeks.

Reminiscing on sweet memories like how they used to see each other each day, how he held her hand whilst they walked across the street and the way he looked at her at the eye and said, “I love you”. At that very moment she realized that the long distance relationship had started. She has to stay strong and learn how to be independent without him by her side. There is no one there to buy her Ramly Burger in the middle of the night anymore, no one to drive her around, no one to pamper her, and mostly, no one to comfort her when she is down.
The next day, as she walks to her college, pictures carved in her memories started to pop out and she imagined his car parked at her apartment’s parking lot. It had just been one day but she had already missed him so much. The next time she will see him is next year’s summer holiday. Well, life has to go on.


What is LDR?


Ahhh… The agony and the Estacy, of long distance relationships. Many had tried it but failed. There are several who succeeded in that though. But it all sums up to, LDR is haaaard. LDR means a couple whom has to endure with not seeing each other everyday due to the distance. These couples stay committed to one and another hoping that as soon that they end the distance; they can live happily ever after. Before it starts, both parties are very certain that they can continue the relationship like the way they used to. Let’s face the reality. The feelings will change depending on individuals. There will be high risk in affairs. Communication breakdowns will happen, etc etc. LDR can be good to certain relationships as well. It can make two individuals closer together and realize how much they love each other because all these while they had been taking each other’s presence for granted.
“You’d walk an extra mile for love”


How to maintain LDR?
LDR needs a lot of trust and faith as you will need to trust your partner on everything. Lies and the disappearing act should not be surfacing in this kind of relationship. By lying, you will destroy the trust that both of you have and the partner will tend to worry more because he or she will have no way of finding you if needed because of the distance.


It is a must to establish an effective communication channel such as telephone, internet and email. Make appointments to meet in intervals throughout the long distance relationship. This helps because you will feel anticipated for the day to come and it will distract you from feeling lonely due to LDR. Find your common areas in terms of hobbies as you can both share and talk about. Exchange interesting moments by sending each other interesting photos of special events so that the partner will get to feel what you do. Occasionally surprise your partner with gifts, cards, and letters.


Avoid adding a third party involvement in the relationship because it will break your mutual trust and agreement with your partner. Besides that, do not take the relationship lightly because this will make your partner feel that you are not committed to LDR or you have lost feelings for him or her. The word suspicion must be removed from your dictionary as it makes your partner feel that you do not trust him or her. They will feel pressured and it will damage the relationship.
Succumbing to negative comments about LDR also leads to wrecking the relationship. During the starting if LDR, you will feel very much certain that you can do it but as it goes on, these negative comments will haunt you throughout the relationship and it will harm it.

AS THE STORY GO ON….


Both of them had face ups and downs in the relationship but it has yet to end. She knows that she has to be strong if she wants it to work and so one day, out of the blue, she received a bouquet of flowers In her office from an anonymous sender and she thought it was her friends trying to prank her. Hence, she left it aside and continued with her work. Half an hour later, she received another bouquet of flowers again from the anonymous sender but this time it was more. It was a hundred white roses.


An hour had passed. She went to get some coffee at the kitchen only to see a man dressed in a tuxedo holding one red rose on his hands. He knelt down with a diamond ring on his hand. It was her boyfriend, he came back to ask for her hand in marriage and she was so surprised that her tears came rolling down her cheeks again and she hugged him tightly and said yes. They both got married and vowed not to have a long distance relationship again